Hey, Jealousy

Sophia Loren and Jayne Mansfield, 1957

I admit it. I get jealous. Over a few things. Ok — over a lot of things.

Jealousy is similar to FOMO: Fear of Missing Out…

But jealousy and disappointment about something that is gone and/or can’t ever *be* may be even worse.

This is called KIMO: “Knowing I Missed Out”. I first came across this term while reading a blog post by Seth Godin.

Knowing you missed out on something that you can’t have but want *so damn bad* isn’t fun.

Do you just gaslight and convince yourself that you are wrong? That no, you don’t really want [insert that something amazing here], you were just … kidding?

In general, I don’t think jealousy is a particularly positive motivator.
But the pain of jealousy may force you to make finally make a move… and that is a silver lining.

In the meantime… how do you get over jealousy? How do you stop wanting something that you want?

Do you bargain? Become complacent? Settle for less?

In short, all you can do is pull up your big-girl (or boy) pants and take a big ole shot of reality.

Serve it with a large side of gratitude, and look at what you do have.

We cannot always control our thoughts, but we are able to work toward reframing negative thinking.

Wanna be wanderer, worshiper of words, writer of rough drafts. Maker of mistakes and strong coffee. Reading you — it’s what I do.

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