day 11

Would you go back and change your regrets? The immediate answer for many people, of course, is a resounding Yes.

But would you really want to? Aside from the odd Butterfly Effect/ Chaos Theory mess that you would be in, how would it change you?

Who would you *be*?

Regretting is like paying a car payment on a car you don’t even have…. it is paying interest on old worry. The energy dedicated to continually remembering, reliving the negative feeling in the pit of your stomach, and the brain-space spent on rumination is a waste of time.

Changing regrets means losing them… and the good things that came from them too — the people, the memories, experiences.

And losing regrets means that you also lose the knowledge gained.

The should’ve, would’ve, could’ve mentality will set you up for future failure by putting you in the losing headspace. Instead, manifest positivity by remembering them as lessons learned and events that you overcame.

Turn the regrets around. Stop calling them regrets when you think about them. They are parts of your past. Parts that all worked together to create the person that you are today.

You are a cumulation of every step you have ever taken, every loss or gain, every kiss that blew you away, every decision that you have made, every heartbreak you gave, every song you ever sung, every word you have read, every smile that made you smile, and everyone that you ever loved.

That, darling, is a Superpower.

Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do
With your one wild and precious life?
Mary Oliver

This was Day 11 of my 30 Day Writer’s Block Challenge

Wanna be wanderer, worshiper of words, writer of rough drafts. Maker of mistakes and strong coffee. Reading you — it’s what I do.

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