This is a fantastic point. Distorting one's boundaries in the name of a relationship can be a painful path. Just because we love someone, it doesn't mean that we must accept poor behaviors. I think it gets confusing when we are deeply invested emotionally and someone hurts us. We want to give second chances-and that is great- but we should have expectations of the people we love. It is said that those closest to us hurt is the most. Partly because they are close and we let them in... and also because we will give them chance after chance and can be taken for granted. Great article Karmen!!!